A palliative care nurse recorded the most common regrets of the dying over her careeer and here’s the top 5. Her blog is here: http://www.inspirationandchai.com/Regrets-of-the-Dying.html
A saying that I’ve lived by a long time, given regret is inevitable, is that it’s better to regret something you have done than something you haven’t. And start thinking more about RIGHT NOW than next week next month or when you retire. Today is a gift, which is why its called the present (thanks KFP!). You should begin and finish each day knowing this might be the last one you get.
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1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
“This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.”
2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.
“This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.”
3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
“Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.”
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
“Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.”
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
“This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.”
I’m pleased to say that I seem to be working towards avoiding such regrets, mainly the common regrets of 1, 3 & 5 above.. 🙂 I think that ‘new humanism’ stuff I have gotten into in my adult years has been the main help here.
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All the BEST Shakeel. Knowledge in whatever way it is sherad with others is definitely a noble deed. What is the point of having something when it cannot be sherad with others and which can be useful to others. Definitely I will try to gain from your blog and make myself more productive.But beware of blogging addiction. These days social networking and keeping intouch online addiction has not spared even the most professional and practical of people like Shahrukh Khan and Amitabh Bachan. For celebrities it might be their way of life, but for ordinary individuals like you it should not annoy your wife and colleages. Family members also should not be deprived of their share of your time.Best of luck once again.
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